Winning at Life – It’s All About the Attitude
Hey guys, what’s up?! Back a week later, just like I promised.
So lately, I’ve been going through a lot of personal issues and life gets hard. I’m a full-time student, a full-time worker, I own and co-found a non-profit organization, I’m in a band and that’s just the surface of it. None of these are the true struggle though. The true struggle is the people.
Give me a thousand things to do – done. Give me hard time with someone I care about – coma Caleb. This is something I’m working on but I do have a way to cope and that is my attitude.
You can be in the roughest spot in life but if you find reasons to be happy and push through, you’re a winner.
Winning at life isn’t about reaching all the success you plan, having unlimited amounts of cash and doing every single thing on your bucket list. Winning life is about two things, one controllable and the other not so much.
So the one that’s hard to control is people. The people you surround yourself with, the people you care for and the people you love make up who you are. They define you, they influence you and they make you become the person you are to become and it can play out positively or negatively.
Unfortunately, people aren’t perfect and someone who can put you in a good mood can also do the opposite. This is my biggest struggle too, so don’t worry if you’re victim to this!
The people you love will hurt you, that’s a guarantee and it’s uncontrollable.
Luckily, like I mentioned earlier, the thing you can control is your reaction, your attitude. THIS IS HARD. I’m definitely no master but I’m telling you, you can be. With certain things in life I can do this, not people. There are people however can do it with people and not other things.
It can be achieved but only if you’re willing to work for it.
Here are Caleb’s Seven Golden Rules to help control your attitude:
Remember you are in control, people can try to hurt you but only you can allow them to.
Assess the situation. What is it that is hurting me? Is it a person, or is it the circumstance?
Go to a quiet place. Thinking is part of overcoming. You need to understand what you have to do to get past whatever it is you’re going through.
Crying is not a weakness. If you feel the need to cry, let it out. I cry more than I would like to admit but sometimes a release of emotion is what you need.
24 hour rule. This is hard and I don’t follow it all especially when it’s with someone I care about, but giving space for 24 hours is sometimes a good choice. It can give the other person time to think too granted the issue is with another person. Still give it 24 hours even if it’s a situation. Don’t want make any rash decisions!
Remember who you are! Stay true to yourself, your morals and what you believe in. You know who you are, so treat yourself in terms of that.
Force a smile. This is the most important. Sometimes if you make yourself happy, you will become happy. A smile is the best way to achieve that.
Now these goals are idealistic but hard to achieve. Easier said than done, even for me.
What’s most important to remember is that you’re never alone. There’s always someone who can help and listen. We here at True Reflections are that person if need be. We truly care for you guys.
That’s all for me this week, I look forward to next week’s topic: spoiler alert, it’s opinionated and we’ll have some fun in discussion from it hopefully. Just remember when debating topics, be respectful and humble. No one knows all the answers but together with different backgrounds, experiences and beliefs maybe we can find one.
Until next time guys, I love you and I look forward to talking to you!
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