The Break-up

For some reason, after a couple breaks up, you always hear people saying “Oh, what a bitch,” or “what a dick.”

It is so common for a relationship to end on bad terms. I understand that one or both of the individuals could have done something bad; resulting in the collapse of their relationship but it is rare for a relationship to end on good terms.

Why is that?

Why do exes never stay friends after the fact?

Why is it that, that you should not be friends?

If your relationship is on the rocks and you or your significant other breaks it off, it is heartbreaking, but try to handle the situation as calmly as you can without insults. Be understanding and respectful. Use that time to see clearly and reach out after a few weeks. An argument does not need to occur!

I know being friends shortly after is not the best idea since there is still remnants of feelings and it causes a lot of pain. Give yourself time to heal and then reach out to talk about being friends. There does not need to be this stereotype that people have made saying you cannot be friends after you have been in a relationship!

There is no such thing, I do not believe in saying you cannot do. You can, as long as you are willing to put in the effort and know that it could bring a lot of emotions to the front that you will have to cope with. The biggest lesson is life is not easy, nothing about life is easy, so why lose a best friend amongst a breakup? I know that sometimes it is better off not being friends but if you are great friends and the chemistry is just not there anymore for a relationship then why the hell not!? I am so frustrated by people saying you just cannot do that, no one stays friends after…

Just because someone tells you cannot do something, it does not mean they are right. Find out on your own, learn your own lessons without someone back seat driving. It is your life. Now this is relatable to more than just a breakup.

You learn so many lessons while you are growing up and you need to do it on your own to get the full lesson. Take risks, take chances, make mistakes, fall in love, stay in bed all day, do whatever it is you want to do, but do it how you want, not how someone else says to.

Yours Truly,

ThinkoutsidetheboxLife (aka Shelby)